Negative thoughts; how to deal with them

27 February 2018

negative thoughts
Do you also get caught up in your negative thoughts from time to time? You know that moment when you start thinking about that dress you don’t fit anymore… Where after you think about how much weight you’ve gained, which results in thoughts like ‘I can’t discipline myself, I will never lose weight’.. etc. Before you know it you’re lost in your own mind. Nope, you’re certainly not the only one. Many of us fall into this trap, ironically created by ourselves. The good news is that you can train your mind stop creating this trap. You can learn how to deal with your negative thoughts. Read more to find out how! 

You’re not your thoughts, so please don’t identify with them

First things first. It’s important to know that you are not your thoughts. You have thoughts, but you are not your thoughts. Let me repeat it; you have thoughts, but you are not your thoughts. Let it sink in. It’s easy to know, harder to truly understand…To understand this on a deeper level, let’s try out the next trick; think about your next upcoming thought…

So, please tell us, what is your next thought going to be? You can’t tell, right…? Car and I know the answer… please don’t try to trick us 😉 Ok you already know it, this was a trick question since you can’t know what thought will emerge in the next moment. So…if you are not our thoughts, why should you identify with them? Most of us identify with our thoughts. We assume all our thoughts are real and therefore simply never question them. When the thought ‘I will never lose weight’ arises, we believe it. When the thought ‘I’m not worthy’ arises, we believe it. When the thought ‘I’m useless’ arises, WE BELIEVE IT. Where after that cupcake seems to be a pretty good companion. I guess you know how the circle continues right…? Oh gosh, what a waste of our precious time and energy! All we want to say is; it’s time for a change!

Become a weather forecaster

No worries you don’t need to go to college to study meteorology;) All you need to do is getting the attitude of a weather forecaster. When observing your thoughts, act like you are checking the weather. Is it rainy, or is the sun shining? A weather forecaster is not complaining about the weather, just only observing what the weather looks like. In other words, what thoughts are entering your mind at this moment? Just simply observe what is coming in. When you do judge your thoughts, you will see that they don’t want to leave your house. They will even invite all their friends, acquaintances and family…, yeap… they will have a party at your expense… You don’t want that right? Don’t judge your thoughts, just watch them. You will see, when you don’t judge your thoughts, the thoughts will quickly disappear again.

Create triggers

Often we get swept away by our thoughts without being aware of it. We think over and over about the same challenges, without actively searching for a solution or accepting the situation. We might even already know the answer, but still unconsciously get swept away by the same thoughts again and again. Because of this reason, it is important to create triggers that help you get out of your mind. My (Carlijn) personal trigger is the ‘waiting trigger’. When waiting in the line for the bathroom, the line for the cash desk, when being in a traffic jam, etc. I ask myself; what am I thinking about? Am I living in the moment? If not, I become aware of it, and it is easy to pull my wandering mind back into the present moment. What can be a right trigger for you? Think about this today. Other triggers can be traffic lights, every time you take a sip of water, everytime you go to the toilet, birds chirping; you name it! Create a trigger that is right for you. You will see that you will get out of your head easily, and therefore will get swept away by your thoughts less and less.

Create a stop-sentence

We all have some stories in our head that our mind likes to play over and over again. When you know your own stories, it can be effective to create some ‘stop-sentences.’ One of the ‘stop-sentences’ that I  (Carlijn) often use is ‘there we go again, I don’t have energy for this, you can go now’. Other stop sentences can be;

‘I know you’re trying to help me, but I don’t need you, you can go now’
‘You’ve bullied me long enough, I don’t have time for your non-sense, go right now’

Create a stop-sentence that feels right for you. Don’t hesitate to comment your stop-sentence down below in the comment section. You can inspire other BodieBoosters!

We understand when it can be hard for you to make these technique’s a part of your life. One thing; it takes time. Give yourself this time. Actively practise these technique’s this month. Next month we will dive deeper into this subject and show you another technique, named; flip thinking. Are you going to practise these technique’s?

P.S. Did this blogpost help you? Let us know in the comments! We want to help you as best as possible and can only do that by getting your feedback!

With love,

Your BodieBoost Coaches,

Char & Car

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  • Charlotte
    • BodieBoost Coach
  • Carlijn
    • BodieBoost Coach
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