How to stop judging your body in 5 steps

19 June 2018

5-step plan on how to stop judging your body

Negative body image, something almost everyone is suffering from nowadays, unfortunately even kids. We all (unconsciously) try to keep up with the standards that the media show us, while the media are full of beautifully photoshopped images – fake images. You might think that supermodels feel more comfortable in their own skin than other people do, as ‘they got the looks.’ I can tell you though that that is a far cry from the truth.

I’ve been working in the fashion industry for five years now, and have seen enough girls feeling unhappy about their bodies. Please keep in mind that if we all profoundly realized that we are beautiful in our own skin, the wallet of the fashion/beauty industry would shrink immensely. We are all programmed to believe that certain things are beautiful and certain things are not. Continue reading if you want to learn more about reprogramming your mind, read more if you want to learn how to stop judging your body.

_No.1 Watch your words and thoughts

We all have this constant nagging person inside of us who talks negatively about ourselves. ‘You’re too fat to wear a bikini’, ‘wear long sleeves to hide your big arms’ and the list goes on and on. Can you imagine how annoying it would be if you would have a roommate like this, nagging about everything you do, about what you look like, what you’re wearing, all day LONG? You would kick this roommate out or leave the house yourself. You wouldn’t be able to stand her. We all have this nagging roommate inside of us. From time to time she walks up to you just to complain about E-VER-Y-THING. The thing is though that we mostly aren’t aware of her. So first things first. Become aware of your words and thoughts. You can do this by meditating or by creating triggers. Examples of triggers can be: traffic lights, your bed, birds chirping, you name it. Every time you see this trigger, ask yourself; what are my thoughts right now? Are they loving?

_No.2 Turn your negative thoughts into positive ones

I know this one sounds like common sense, but are you already practicing it? When you become aware of the voices inside your head, it is time to change your self-talk. Change your negative thoughts into beautiful and encouraging ones. Check out this blog post on flip-thinking to learn more about it.

Trust me, this is such a life changer.

_No.3 Forgive

You will see that even though you’re getting better and better at ditching your negative thoughts, you will still have them from time to time. From time to time, what am I saying, probably even daily. I know I do. There are going to be moments where you will have a hellaaa hard time talking positively to yourself. The most important thing in those moments is that you don’t judge yourself for having negative thoughts. When you are able to forgive yourself for having negative thoughts instead of judging them, they will disappear. Ego can only exist when you are not aware. As soon as you judge yourself for having negative thoughts, you become unaware and thus the ego stays alive. Eckart Tolle talks about this in his book named ‘the power of now’. I highly recommend this book to everyone!

‘Forgiveness is a practice because it is ongoing. I find that I have to forgive my thoughts all throughout the day. The ego voice of judgement is always at the forefront of our minds, so we have to lean on forgiveness to reprogram our thinking and restore our thoughts back to love. ” ‘Gabrielle Bernstein

I couldn’t say it any better than Gabrielle Bernstein. This quote comes from her book named ‘judgement detox’. I love how openly she talks about her own judgements and how she learned to accept her judgements and therefore love herself more. Would you like me to give you book recommendations more often? Please let me know in the comments below! Oh and btw, this is not an advertisement, just so you know.

_No.4 Create a loving mantra

We all have limited beliefs formed by our subconscious. We can overcome those limited beliefs by training our subconscious mind. Your word choices influence your subconscious and the way you feel about yourself. A mantra is a phrase you can create to reprogram your subconscious.

Use mantras like:

‘I am loved, I am enough I accept myself’.

‘I am strong. I am beautiful. I am enough.’

‘I treat my body well because I love it. I am thankful for all my body does for me’.

‘I’m not going to let my mind bully my body. I accept and love my body’.

In time these mantras will become your second nature. You will experience a shift in the way you view yourself.  What is going to be your mantra? Create one that feels good for you. Inspire other BodieBoosters by putting your mantra in the comments below!

_NO. 5 Put your alarm clock with a label that shows your mantra, 3 times a day

These mantras truly help, but the most important thing is to really use them. Uh, DUH… you already knew that of course. When we start a new habit, we often feel very optimistic. Unfortunately, we’re all so busy that after some days we often forget to practice the new healthy habit. We all need reminders. Wouldn’t it be great if somebody could tell you three times a day ‘hey, you look amazing! you’re doing a good job, keep on going!’. Don’t lie to me, I know we both think that would be pretty awesome;) Let’s be creative and set our alarm clock with a label three times a day. I got this idea from Brendon Burchard, and I have to say that I damn love it! Check out this video where he explains more about this concept.

I genuinely hope this will help you. If you practice this 5-step plan, please let me know if it helped you!

Wishing you a lovely day full of self-love! Don’t forget that you are beautiful in your own way.

With love,

Your BodieBoost coach,

Elles Ottens


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